More than a year has passed. My husband and I already celebrated our first wedding anniversary. Friends have married and some were even lucky to already be blessed with their bundle of joy. I just recently left my job to finally join my husband in Singapore. These and a lot more things have already transpired in my so called life. There is one thing though, that I always keep on coming back to, my passion for writing.
Before I share the story of our wedding day let me first take this opportunity, through this article, to thank my “sisters” for giving me a memorable day and night that I will forever cherish. When I say “sisters”, I am not only referring to my wonderful siblings but also to all the ladies who make my life extra colorful.
For a person who is a homebody and who has only few special friends, it is truly heartwarming and surprising to get two separate bridal showers.
The first one took place exactly a month before our wedding day. This was also the same day that Rico’s best friend and one of our groom’s men, Neil, tied the knot to his lovely bride, Me-ann. It was a Saturday and the wedding was held at one of the country’s favorite venue; Caleruega, Transfiguration Chapel, located at Nasugbu Batangas.
The day started really early for us. The wedding is scheduled at 10am. Rico is also one of the groomsmen so we were naturally expected to be there earlier for the ceremony. While on the road, Rico suddenly asks me if we can visit his Aunty Baby that night since she just came home from the United States. She is currently staying at the Astoria Hotel in Ortigas with some friends. I agree but also told him that if the wedding takes long and we will be coming home late then we might as well reschedule it to another date. After all, we still have a scheduled fitting with our seamstress early next morning. His only reply was, “we have to go there tonight, magtatampo si Aunty". Upon hearing this, I felt upset. I find it inconsiderate that he still insists on visiting his aunt on a Saturday night when he knows that our weekend schedule is already full. Saturday night is practically the only time we can rest. Of course I tried to reason out with him but surprisingly he was very insistent. Is this my Rico? The guy who will jump at any chance of sleeping is insisting and even arguing on visiting his aunt on a Saturday night! It was so surreal it actually made my mouth shut.
In the middle of the awkward silence, Rico tried and successfully changed the subject by asking me to help him with the direction. He asked me to reach for the map, a piece of white paper inside his bag, at the backseat of the car. The seatbelt and the dress I was wearing at that time made it difficult for me to reach for the paper or any item at the backseat for that matter. So I took hold of the first white paper that I can reach. When I opened it I was surprised to see a letter instead of a map authorizing my sister Ms. Rizabel…. Whoa!! What’s this? I asked and immediately turned to Rico who in turn snatched the paper from my hands. I asked him again with a mischievous smile and insist that he tells me but he just kept driving as if he’s not hearing anything. Eventually, I stopped questioning him, but in my mind I was naturally wondering what he is up to. Of course, I wouldn’t want to spoil his fun. Nonetheless, I can’t help but be intrigued and restless at the same time.
Later that night I discovered what he was up to, together with my sisters and girlfriends, and it was really sweet. I cannot really think of a better word for it. It was actually a simple bridal shower with some wholesome and not so wholesome games. I enjoyed all the games particularly the “pinoy henyo”, it was hilarious. The food, drinks, and the very scandalous cake were all winners. And of course, who would forget their very “yummy” package, ordered, delivered, and sealed just for me ;). Before my package came, they covered my eyes with a hanky. After some time, Mr. Yummy made his presence felt. I actually had goose bumps all over me! And then the time to meet Mr. Yummy came. He slowly removed my eye cover and there I was hoping to see Ding Dong Dantes in front of me when lo and behold he was even better! Standing in front of me was my destiny, my Rico.
More than the games, the food, and the surprises, what made the whole event very memorable are the people. The time and effort they gave truly made me feel special and loved.
Thank you to my family, ate Jehan, ate Mimi, kuya Tone, Shobe and Veka. They were the ones who coordinated, organized, and planned everything. Considering how busy my Ate’s are, one being a businesswoman and the other a doctor, I was really touched by their gestures. They spent the whole Saturday making balloons, making the necessary arrangements, and decorating the place. I love you guys!!
Thank you to my friends who managed to be there despite their very busy schedules and made the event so much fun. Richelle, Niña, Rosey, Dindy, Mel, Mervi and BeAnn. Looking at them made me realized how diverse my friends are. But it also made me appreciate that each one of them represents a portion of me, of my character. I will forever be grateful that God let our paths crossed. You are all awesome!
Thank you to my friends who were not able to come but still made their presence felt. To Jen, I really appreciate the phone call all the way from Cagayan de Oro. To Joanne and Reich, the program and games were wonderful. Thank you so much! And to Madie, my friend who was in Singapore at the time, your simple comment of “I really wish I was there” in facebook says it all.
Finally, to my one and only, you never fail to surprise me. Thank you for always finding ways to make me happy.
My second bridal shower was courtesy of my ADB family spearheaded by my close friends Abby, Pia, and my Ninang, Ms. Marilyn. I remember it took place 3 days before my wedding day. It was celebrated over our one hour lunch break, which explains why the theme was called KISS for “Keep It Short and Sweet”. I will have to add that it was a very wholesome affair, so wholesome, in fact, that even our male colleagues were invited. I find it really heartwarming that the two males who came also happen to be two of our foreign officers.
It started with a simple lunch in the Executive Dining Room of ADB. There were no games, surprises, nor kinky cakes and candies. But what made it memorable were the experiences, thoughts, and advices shared by my officemates. Since most of them are already married with children and grandchildren, even, for some, it was really interesting for me to hear their stories.
There were talks about the importance of open communication, submitting one’s self to their spouse, trust and respect. Some very inspiring quotations were also printed in pink papers and read aloud in the group. Among my favorites are;
“The best and the most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller
“What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.” – Leo Tolstoy
“In marriage, each partner is to be an encourager rather than a critic, a forgiver rather than a collector of hurts, an enabler rather than a reformer.” – Norman Wright and Gary Oliver
The most striking insight for me though was ironically the one shared by a male colleague. He said, and I quote, “in your relationship believe that tomorrow will always be the best”. While pondering about what he said, another male colleague disagrees saying, why should the best have to be tomorrow when it could be today?
The answer was, if you believe that tomorrow will always be the best then you will always have something to look forward to and be excited about in your relationship. In the process, you will soon realize that with that kind of attitude, everyday is the best day for you and your partner. I agree.
To my ADB friends and colleagues who became part of this short but truly sweet gesture, a big thank you! Just the thought that in spite of their very busy schedules, they chose to share one hour of their precious time to make me feel special is something that I will forever treasure.
Both events are beautiful and unique in their own ways. I learned a lot and became much, much more appreciative of my family and friends, most specially my “sisters”. It made me realized that I may just be a speck in this big, wide world we live in but this speck, for a moment, can be the world in the eyes of those dear to her. Distance, diversity, and time are, indeed, immaterial for people who have sincere love and care for each other.